Maids, Maids, Maids

When we first started talking about getting married, the better half pointed out that he only wanted 1 attendee on each side.. At first I thought that was the most ridicules thing in the world, however I take my words back.. I see where he is coming from now. Since we both have a lot of mutual friends, it would be hard for us to pick some and leave others out. So we decided to keep it low key at one on each side.. easy as pie. (there is more to this, but I'll leave that for another post)

This brings me to the main point of this post. Since I'm only going to have a MOH (<-Maid of Honor.. just in case you didn't get that), I've decided to go the non-traditional bridesmaid dress route and splurge on something a little different that I KNOW she will want to wear again, and again and again. Before you say "well I've heard that one before", hear me out. I know a lot of brides say they want something that their girls will want to wear again, but %70 of the time, they end up picking out the most hideous dresses that will end up being worn once and then hidden at the back of the closet never to see the light of day again.. But in this case, since she is the only one deciding, she can pick whatever dress she wants; style, color, cut. Anthropologie's fabulous styles might be a great place to start looking...



Rosettes-And-Ruffles Dress

Spirited Away Dress


Longest Night Dress

Frozen Crystals Dress

Now, enough about me... How did you decide what your girls would be wearing at your wedding? Tell, me all about it!!

I {heart} Frocks..

visit Frocks online...
Jenny Yoo - Ella Dress in off-white silk shantung with flower by Alice Hart

I love them even more for posting this lovely photograph of their window display back in May. The colors work so perfectly together and the Jenny Yoo bridal dress? Hello, gorgeous!! This is definitely going up on the inspiration board.

p.s the feather flower is to die for...

Fab...

Jason Wu fall 09/10 collection via The Fashion Cult

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Maids from hell..

Photography by pinkchick83 on Flickr

So I got a little bored at home tonight. When I get bored, I research random things on google. Google is a magical tool you know? So I typed this little phrase above in the google search field to see what would pop up. I was unsuccesful The first time because maids from hell apparently translated to cleaning ladies from hell.

Back to the drawing board.. I then tried my second attempt at searching 'Bridesmaids from hell'.

I found this little number...

http://syracusesingle.blogspot.com/2006/07/bridesmaids-from-hell.html

First, read the blog post above from Single in Syracuse.. and then come back here to read what I have to say about this little ditty.

*Are you done reading yet??*

In my opinnon, (bear in mind, I am allowed an opinion) this women is a class act bridezilla.

"Out of my six girls, three have been the epitome of perfect bridesmaids. The girls want to know, on a daily basis, what it is I need them to do. They know I am planning a huge wedding on top of finishing two schools, working, and renovating a new apartment to make it move-in ready in two weeks. The other three ‘maids fall in and out of my graces daily"

I'm sorry. Did she honnestly expect ALL of her 6 girls would bow down to her? I get she asked them to be maids.. but there are better reasons to be mad at them. ( btw did you read the reasons why she picked them in the first place???) You're talking about 6 women who also have other things on the go.. Guaranteed not everyone is going to be on the same page.

And it goes on... dress shopping...

"Maid: Can we get strapless? I want strapless?
Me: No, I’d really prefer if you girls have a different neckline than mine. I’m wearing strapless. Maid: But I want strapless.
Me: (losing patience) I want you girls in a different neckline! So you look different than me!"

Ok, I get the bridesmaid she's talking about in this post is a little hard to work with, but honestly.. Would anyone really remember you wore a strapless dress and your maids wore the same neckline? Is it a faux pas to wear the same neckline as the bride? Someone help me on this..

At least they didn't wear white to her wedding..

For the maids..

1. Lush gift basket, 2. Chloe black leather tote, 3. Purple Pashmina, 4. Peacock clutch on Etsy, 5. Purple Petals locket on Etsy,

6. Amethyst Purple Leather Journal with Handpainted Button on Etsy

How will you thank your maids?? I've been thinking about this for about a week now. When the time comes that i'm actually engaged, thinking about it ahead may have it's advantages.
The boy and I are planning on only having 1 attendant each. Here's the reasoning. It's not that we don't want a large wedding party, trust me!! It's actually a lose lose situation for us; 3 simple points:

1. We have wayyyyyyyyy too many good friends. To include some and not include others would be a terrible mistake and perhaps a never ending battle with friendships ending in the shitter. You laugh now, but you'd be surprised at how many of our friends would become bitter about the situation.

2. We don't want to hastle with difficult people. we already have our mothers to deal with... more than enough.. trust me! I would rather throw myself off the roof than to deal with 4 PMS-ing bridesmaids and 2 pissed off mothers..

3. Keeping it low key means, keeping it cheap.. which also means.. no hassle.

While we assesed the pros and cons, this was the better fit for us. Besides! what do we need a wedding party of 10 for?? At first, I did protest. But in all thruthfulness, it makes sooooo much sence! (I might have to do a posting about difficult wedding guests and stories about the maids from hell!!!)

Ok back to the main topic. Thank you gifts for the maids. It is customary to give gifts to your bridal party to thank them for putting up with your (pardon the language) S**t for the lenght of the planning. I have already picked out my maid of honnor. It's been the same for over 8 years. We have been the best of friends since grade 9 science class and plan on being best friends for years to come. I know her inside and out and we speak the same language all the time. *hold the laughs* she completes me.

I will not be following the customary engraved gift. My better half has received 2 engraved gifts as thank you gifts in the past and they are either being used as door stopers or collecting dust in the basement. Personalize it withought doing it the generic way.

Here's what I want to do. (shhhhht... can you keep a secret?)

Leather tote bag, pashmina, Lush beauty products, clutch, Spa gift certs, note book, locket and a thank you note. Ah yes... and apple juice ; )